So to give some context, my girlfriend’s best friend is in a relationship that collectively has been agreed upon as toxic. To give some examples, she has told my girlfriend about instances where she has felt like she cant say no to him, another where her boyfreind explicilty layed out plans for her with no regard whatsoever for her personal preference, schedule etc. We also find that she alienates us and chooses him over her friends in every instance. Long story short it appears to be a very unhealthy and perhaps even unstable or volatile relationship.
My girlfriend and i have been dating for a long time and this is her best friend since high school. So were torn about maybe stepping in and saying something to her about something having to change. But is it right to meddle in someone elses relationship even if it is toxic? We want to help her, but are unsure if we should step in and talk to her more seriously about it
Any help or suggestions would be appreciated
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Sometimes you can’t do anything to help until they want you to help. It took me 6 months to leave a toxic relationship because I was trying to find the good in him. I left that quickly because I’d already been through much worse year before and I was not letting that happen again.
I only left because I got really angry and I was scared enough to have my body full of adrenaline so I didn’t care if I got hurt.
I’d love to say that you can help as soon as you see the signs but generally, all you can do is be there until she comes to you and asks for help. Don’t just sit on the sidelines though. Stay close to her and remind her you’re there if she needs you. Don’t let him alienate her from everyone. And when she does ask for your help, move quickly. Especially if they live together. Even if it’s just the important documents and a bag of clothes