Hi All,
I’ll add as much context as I can to chase some good advice and whether it’s worth holding onto hope.
I met a woman 6 months ago. Our first 3 months were incredible. We clicked like I’ve never felt. Talked about big topics, had the same goals and values, physically everything get right between us and we just genuinely couldn’t get enough of each others company.
Then, 3.5 months in and her 6yo daughter went through anxiety, her ex (from 2.5 years ago) began stalking her to the point of a restraining order and her BC failed, resulting in an unwanted pregnancy. The pregnancy was terminated after a short discussion (both agreed), her daughter was placed on new meds and her ex was served the restraining order. This all took its toll on her, however. Her focus and attention went elsewhere – understandably. We continued to speak every day and would catch up for lunch every couple of weeks.
For the last 2.5 months, this is where it’s been. She started anxiety meds about 3 weeks ago which is helping. I’ve spoken to her about whether she’d rather I pull back but says she doesn’t want that. She just doesn’t know how to get her head right to be ready for a relationship again. She has said she’s getting better and she’s almost there, however she would never expect me to wait for her. We talk all day every day. We catch up every couple of weeks for lunch still and everything still feels like she’d be someone very special in my life. She has said she fell into a hole and has continued speaking to me because she knew she didn’t want to lose me, but is riddled with anxiety to actually pull the trigger.
As an outsider or someone who has been through a similar scenario – does waiting work? Does this sound like a scenario that could end well? Or is it best to pull the trigger and mourn a relationship that never was and continue my hunt?
Happy to answer any questions to give context I may have missed.
Thanks