I’m 38M (Chubby) and I met her (36F, fit) on OkCupid. I realized someone had sent an “Intro”/“Comment” on my profile and I responded to it. As we kickstarted the conversation I realized my profile wasn’t as detailed so I added in some photographs and more detail on some responses to the default questions. I even added in my body type as ‘Full figured’ and I brought it up right away telling her that, it is who I was at the moment and that everyone has preferences when it comes to such aspects. And that I’d totally understand if she were to un-match me. She said she experienced that level of honesty (her word was ‘foregrounded’) for the first time ever and in the spirit of openness’s mentioned to me she had a one and a half year old baby. I was good with that. She also asked me if I was comfortable with who I was and I said that I was at peace at who I was and where I am currently.
We matched Friday morning and by evening, she asked if I’d like a late dinner. We met Friday night at 8:30pm and had an absolutely amazing conversation. (I think) I managed to surprise her with a few detailed questions and was completely fascinated with who she was earlier and what she is now (professionally, she went from being an Engineer to a mid-wife). The conversation seemed incredibly easy and I didn’t know how time flew. We spoke about all things we could (profession, travel, family) and at one point I didn’t want to have food anymore because just the conversation with her was incredibly interesting and food was distracting me.
Before I knew it, it was the time for the restaurant to close for the night and we boxed our food and went our separate ways. I messaged her on the app to ask her if she’d like to meet up again and she said that she didn’t feel that spark and would like to leave things as they stand. I wished her the best and got on with my weekend.
I know things have been incredibly messy and my physical appearance clearly wasn’t helping me. Regardless, I just wanted to post this because there is a possibility of a good connection and I’m going to get myself together and find a wonderful woman to spend my life with. This is for anyone who’s feeling a bit low with the entire situation of dating and apps, there are some good people out there! Don’t throw in the towel!