My boyfriend wants kids, and I am unable to have them
I just need a mans input on this. I appreciate any help!
So i’m a woman (25) and have been dating my boyfriend for only about 4 months (i know, not long) and obviously neither of us want to start our lives or a family with each other right now…but he loves talking about our future. It’s very sweet. But I am a recovering drug addict (he knows this) and I was addicted to fentanyl (whist using pretty much every drug you could think of) for about 6 years. With such long term use, my body obviously took a beating.
I was told I was infertile by a doctor. He said it might not be this way forever, but i’ve never even wanted kids. So this was never a blow to me. I’ve always been extremely upfront to all of my previous boyfriends/potential partners about my infertility and how I have never even wanted children. But I’ve never dated someone who DID want them. So this hasn’t been an issue. For some reason, I didn’t tell my boyfriend on any of our first few dates. And I feel like I can’t tell him now. I’m an extremely upfront, honest person but for some reason I can’t bring myself to tell him. I fear he’ll break up with me. And i know that would probably be a good thing since I feel like i’m getting in the way of him finding a partner who has the same life goals as him, but also, maybe my mind will change about wanting kids. I’ve also never dated anyone i would trust with my kids, but if I did have kids, I would love my current boyfriend to father them.
Im not sure what type of advice i’m looking for. But if any of you have time to give your input, I would greatly appreciate it. (also i apologize for my terrible grammar and punctuation, i type very lazy)