Backstory, I was in a sexless marriage which ended and was single without hookups for two years, so hadn’t had any kind of intimacy with someone for about five years. In my 20s and early 30s I didn’t have any problems. While I was not getting intimacy from others, I heavily relied on porn probably 5-6 times a week. Also went sober during this time so can’t even have a drink for nerves!
Started dating recently and this weekend was the first time we got intimate, and I assumed because I masturbated regularly but it had been a while I expected to last a few seconds.
Was not the case at all. I struggled to get or maintain an erection, it took me ages to come and I immediately felt embarrassed because apparently in five years my body has completely forgotten how to have sex with other people.
I honestly felt like she’d pulled back the sheets on an old car that wouldn’t start. She was super confident and knew what she wanted and I felt like I was just trying to keep up.
So anyway, I guess my post is admitting that I feel like five years of porn and nothing else has scrambled my sex drive. Has anyone else been through that and how did you recover? Please tell me you recovered. I want my sex life back!