hi. my situationship (18m) and i (18f) are thinking about moving out of our parents home. since rent is crazy in our city, we thought about sharing an apartment to save some money.
would this be a good idea? i know that moving in with a situationship sounds like a horrible idea at first, but let me clarify some things.
i actually don’t know whether the term situationship is appropriate in our case. ofc we are more than just friends and less than a romantic couple, but often the term situationship is used in a situation were two people are intimate with each other, but don’t want to commit. it’s a bit different in our case.
we have been friends since our early childhood, “dated“ in elementary school but then broke up bc people were bullying us. we remained best friends in school, did everything together, and everyone thought that we were dating, but we weren’t.
i have always had feelings for him, and i know that he had them too on a subliminal level.
however, the timing has never been right.
right before our finals we talked about relationships and us, he said that he did not feel mature enough to make this work rn. i was hurt, but also super busy with school and focusing on myself, so i did not disagree or try to talk things out.
half a year later we were on a birthday party, where we did not know anyone except for the birthday child, so we kind of like just chilled on our own. he was drunk but i was sober and afraid to ruin our friendship, so i chickened out of his attempts to make out with me and only cuddled and held hands.
i could go on and on with examples but i think you got the idea. we are always close friends, but i can sense that there is more between us. and when we are outside together at night (which happens rarely since none of us enjoy partying that much) there is always this tension between us, but we are never drunk or drunk enough to overcome our fear and act upon it.
other than this, he basically treats me like his girlfriend. he pays for me when we’re eating in restaurants (even though i don’t really like it nor would even expect it), gives me compliments, asks me for advice on what clothing items he should buy, or how he should cut his hair, etc. we both even have access to each others phones bc he thought it would be funny.
so should i move in with him?
rn we live about 1,5h away from each other (opposite ends of the city), so visiting him is always kind of a challenge and we often only hang out via facetime, leading to calls lasting from 2-10 hours everyday.
i can’t just talk about my feelings for him for now, because we a) are terrible at communicating and b) so incredibly busy with university rn that he’d probably just quickly postpone the topic.
TL;DR: Should i move in with my situationship?