Men of Reddit, who were or are in love/crush with a female friend, how did it go after you confessed to her?

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1. She came out as a lesbian

2. You got two options, shut it and just live life on as it was before OR you make that jump, it’s all up to you to decide what’s worth it.

   I personally will confess and take my shot, I can always find more friends but someone that I’m attracted to and hope something more out of it? Not many and hell she might be interested back also but typically women don’t initiate in modern days.

3. I was a freshman in high school, this girl that i really liked and was gonna tell her. She told me that she thought i was only friends with her to have sex with her at only 15. After that i pretty much stopped talking to her and havent talked to her since.

4. She was gracious about it, and said she couldn’t be who I deserved. I was hurt, but I understood what she meant. It was awkward after, but only for a little while. I asked her to be okay with me needing a bit of distance to heal, and she was. I won’t lie to you and say it wasn’t painful. For a few months, I was miserable.

   The friendship slowly disintegrated, but not because of the confession. I found my now wife of 16 years. She has been married for 14 herself. She was even a bridesmaid at my wedding.

   Time and distance did what they always do. We each had kids. We had new jobs. And eventually, we just grew apart. I still think of her as a dear friend. If she asked for help, I’d be there.

5. Mine went well. I was in college and was friends with a girl who had the same major and we had the same classes. We studied together and celebrated wins and losses together.

   I finally told her I really liked her and I wanted to have more of a relationship because I found her attractive and exciting to be around. She basically said “Same,” and was kissing me within three seconds of me telling her my feelings.

6. I kept it to myself because we weren’t supposed to get feelings for each other. So I kept quiet and suppressed it. However, one day she confessed and then after some time I gave a positive answer.

   I’d say talk it out, shoot your shot and let her know that if she doesn’t want to give it a shot, there are no hard feelings. And you’ll try to keep things the same. Although you might need some time to let those feelings settle down. Give yourself some time to get a hang on yourself.

7. She laughed and asked if I was serious.

   Didn’t bother saying yes after the laugh.

   Dodged a bullet knowing what she’s like now 4 years later. 4 kids and 4 baby daddies in 4 years

8. A few times in my life. In two cases, the friend was not interested in me that way and turned me down when I asked them out. I’m still close with one and have largely lost contact with the other. In the other case, she ended up being interested and we dated for almost four years. We had an amicable breakup and still keep in touch.

9. I asked her out, she thought we were hanging out as friends. Next can 6 months of pain. Then she was ready to see us that way. 16 years later and 13 years of marriage under our belt she is still the only person I want to share this ride with.

10. Every female friend I have asked out has rejected me and the friendship fell apart soon after.

11. I told her, she rejected me, I never talked to her again because of shame and quarantine happened right after and that was that.

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    That was in Senior year of highschool though, I’m sure that it’ll go differently with actual adults. Good luck, if you don’t say anything and you stick around until she finds someone else then I’m sure that’ll feel worse than trying and losing her now!

12. Bold of you to assume that I would confess to her.

13. We don’t talk anymore 👍

14. *I can’t confess to the fear that she doesn’t reciprocate, and the friendship would get awkward, and we would not even be friends. I value our friendship and her being in my life more than anything.*

    Go with your first mind.