I have been dating someone for 3 months. We get along great but I am noticing a concerning trend in how he acts when alcohol is involved. The relationship is new enough that I’m treading carefully and I need advice on whether these are things that a couple can work through or if I should just end things. When he’s sober he’s great, we don’t fight. But when he’s drunk it’s another story.
Some of these things are:
1. We went out for an event, I have bigger breasts so regardless of shirt some cleavage always shows. I was wearing a body con dress and heels and he didn’t say anything about the outfit at home and said I looked beautiful before we left but once we get to the bar with his friends and he gets drunker he started pulling my shirt up multiple times in front of friends. Never have I ever had a bf do this. It was humiliating. He did this another night too but I told him to stop and he did.
2. We were at a party and there was a lot of drinking so I grabbed some food and was eating and I said something along the lines of “here babe have some you might need it with all the alcohol” and in front of his friends he kind of got snappy and said “what’re you trying to do, sober me up?” And this really didn’t sit well with me. I was trying to be caring and make sure he had something in his stomach so again, humiliating to be spoken like that in front of friends
3. This one has been the worst one thus far. We were already drunk and in a restaurant he decides to ask me something along the lines of “has anyone made you cum more often”. This threw me for a complete loop because I have never been asked this, let alone in public. This ended up creating an argument that night and left me with severe anxiety the next day not knowing the effect that this argument was now going to have on our relationship
The fact that he’s 38 acting like this is very concerning. I wouldn’t do the things that he does and I’m 27 lol. So I’d appreciate an objective POV on this situation and any advice you guys can give 🙂
TLDR: bf is nice when sober but an a-hole when drunk