I’ve been with my boyfriend close to a decade now and we are at the age where it’s time to take it to the next stage of the relationship. For some reason, I just cannot commit to a marriage and I don’t know what exactly scares me so much about it. He is my only serious boyfriend and I have committed into the relationship this long but why can’t I agree to a marriage? We have discussed it and he claims he has come to terms with not getting married but I know deep down he is just settling for it. I know it is unfair to him, we have also discussed maybe it’s better to break things off but that lasted for like a day or two then we ran straight back to each other again. I can’t bring myself to let him go and neither can he. But why am I so scared to commit to marriage and how can I change my perspective. Any thoughts?