My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and love each other very much. We have lived together for the majority of that time and share 3 kids from our previous marriages. While I am ready to get engaged, he isn’t quite there yet which is understandable. Blending families can be tricky and so can relationships, so of course we have had our fair share of disagreements and difficult times. It’s because of this that he wants to make sure we have a solid foundation before getting married. We have recently started couples therapy and mutually agreed that it would be really good for us. The catch is that he promised me last Christmas (with no coercing) that he would be proposing to me in the next year/definitely by Christmas. I am a stay at home mom (but I do have means of earning some money) and he makes 6 figures. Times have been tough for everyone lately and I know that. Especially with kids and around the holidays. But he didn’t get me anything at all for Christmas. Not a card, a homemade gift, or even a $10 gift card to Starbucks (or wherever). And he didn’t propose this past year. I got him a pair of shoes bc I know that’s important for context purposes. I’m honestly still pretty hurt and I don’t know what to do. His “excuse” was that he’s just not good at gift giving and never has been. He was previously in a 15 year marriage. I am not the girl always expecting things to be over the top and extra and he knows this. As for promising me that we would be engaged, that’s a pretty big promise. He has been acting like everything should be fine and his way of showing he wants me is squeezing my boobs. And then expects me to be turned on and want to have sex. And that’s not how I feel. I’ve expressed this and that I would love just a little romance. He asked me this morning “if all sexual stuff is off the table for now.” It was never off, I’m just so hurt. I want to end on a positive that he provides for our family and cooks lots of good meals for us. How much longer should I give this relationship? Thanks so everyone, forgive me as this is my first post. ❤️