Hi everyone,
My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost three years and currently live together. While our relationship seemed to be smooth sailing, two weeks ago she told me that starting law school has taken a toll on her mental health and has requested that we take a break in our relationship so she can have a bit of space. I mistakenly freaked out and assumed the worst, which led to her stating that she felt she could no longer “give me what I deserve” and essentially broke up with me on the spot.
Over the past few weeks, I realized just how clingy I became over the past few months and immediately found myself again. I’ve demonstrated much more positive body language and my girlfriend has noticed these changes. We’ve had great communication and interaction since “breaking up” and I now feel I am back to living my own life instead of attaching too closely to her.
Because we still live together and I finally feel like myself again, I’d love the opportunity to check in with her to see how she feels about potentially “being together” again. It seems like many people in her close circle (including her parents) don’t even know we “separated” because they still text me pretty regularly. However, part of me feels like I unfortunately do not have much input in this conversation because I was the one that got dumped.
What is a good way to approach this conversation?
TLDR: My gf proposed a “break” to give herself space from my clinginess. I misinterpreted this and she quickly said she wasn’t sure if she could help me so we “broke up” but still live together and get along well. I acknowledged my past behavior and she has noticed my positive changes. How can we get back together?