Generally, the relationship is good but I have this feeling in the back on my mind and sometime her actions make me think I am right. Please tell me if I am overthinking/overreacting.
The first instance was that I saw her texting her old friend with benefit after she told me that they were not longer speaking. He was trying to arrange a time to talk and meet her and she couldn’t simply tell him that she has a boyfriend now so it would be wrong to still be talking at all. The conversation was dry but she couldn’t just be firm and tell him that. Whereas, I was able to do this the moment my ex girlfriend of women I used to sleep with would contact me.
The second instance was that I told her that I don’t mind if men offer to buy her drinks or food if she is at a bar but I would rather she doesn’t accept and uses my card to pay for herself. I then gave her my card and told her to use it in such occasions. She then went out with 4 of her girlfriends to a local private club that we all visit and sat with two guys and let them pay for their food and drinks. The guys were people that she used hang out with when she was single and she wanted to party. She told me that these guys were not her friends and were people that she knew. I told her that this made me feel uncomfortable but she told me that she only let them pay because she was shy and she was with her girlfriends. Im from the UK so paying dinner/drinks for a group of women is not a normal occurrence unless you are trying to insinuate something. If it were the other way around I know she would not like it at all.
Today she told me that an old guy friend invited her out for drinks on the weekend but she turned it down because she was busy that night. He then proceeded to suggest another night for drinks and she told me that she would not accept because she would rather not go that bar. I told her that it is cool to meet guy friends but I asked her if the relationship between them is platonic. She then paused for a good 10-15 seconds and told me that she is not sure if it is on his side but she assured me that he has never tried anything. I got mad because I cannot understand why she would be open to meeting someone who she madly suspects is interested in her when we are dating. She thinks I am overreacting and has now changed the story to say that the relationship is platonic.