tldr: anxious gf is causing relationship issues
I (18m) have been dating my girlfriend (17f) for over 1 year now. Heres a little background info:
I work full time, and am a welder and mercenary. I also live on my own. My life was not easy, and I struggled a lot growing up. I have been diagnosed with ASPD, and some other stuff.
She is still in high school and works a (quite good) job at a restaurant. She grew up in a divorced family but still, had/has a pretty decent life. She is in therapy, i used to be, but am not anymore.
Heres the main issue through my pov:
She is extremely anxious and insecure. She constantly needs reassurance that I am slowly growing tired of providing. Of course, I have no problem reassuring my gf but generally when i hear “you hate me” and “do you love me?” 100 times in a day i start to lose my mind. As someone with ASPD, I struggle a LOT understanding and dealing with behaviors like this. I feel almost trapped when this happens, like im being forced to give her reassurance no matter what. She has accused me of cheating so many times that i had to tell her that if she does it again, things are over. She is INSANELY anxious and it takes a toll on both of us. I calm and reassure her when she has worries that are kind of understandable and based on reality, but i just can’t handle the quantity of the ones that arent. We had a weekend trip for our one year and there were some days where she would ask me if i hated her and asked what was wrong with me, every 5 minutes, for multiple hours. Even with me giving reassurance, it still continued.
ofc, our relationship has other factors and issues, a they all. I will answer any questions that yall might have
How can i fix this? Should I?