My sex drive exceeds my boyfriends, which has been new for me and a little difficult to manage. He isn’t on medication and is not stressed.
We talked about it at the beginning when I felt my needs weren’t being met. I explained the feeling of constant rejection and for awhile I stopped making the advances. We also talked about ways to improve frequency, such as having sex earlier in the day, me prompting him that I want to have sex later earlier, going to bed earlier, etc.
We had been doing pretty well until recently. He had made a comment that created some insecurities for me regarding our sexual relationship, and I told him that it would take awhile for me to be comfortable again. We didn’t have sex for about 2 weeks, but then resumed again. Last night, I made 2-3 advances that seemingly got ignored. He got in bed, went to sleep, and I was fuming.
This is more of a how to handle my own processing, but also some of how to address it with him. I have never had this issue and am shocked that I feel resentful. I can’t explain why I get so mad. I don’t *want* to be mad, but it really bothers me. I think it is because we have talked about it and I feel that I am being rejected/ignored when I bid for physical intimacy. I get that not all nights we will be intimate, but the nights where I am bidding for it and it isn’t acknowledged bug me. I am starting to think that I need to ask him to acknowledge it and let me know he isn’t feeling it for whatever reason.
Any insight on things I can reflect on, why I might be feeling this way, or what to do about it are appreciated.
**tl;dr:** My sex drive is higher than my boyfriends and I am feeling angry when he isn’t interested in having sex. How can I reflect on/process that better and how can I better address it with him?