*Trigger warning *

Me & this guy we’ve been talking otp for 2 weeks.. we are both in the aviation industry and his birthday is coming up so we decided to make plans to travel out the country together. During these two weeks otp we discussed what we where looking for as far as a relationship, our love languages, etc. Its finally time to go on the trip everything has already been discussed as what we where doing financially. Long story short he wasn’t being affectionate from the beginning and i figured he just didn’t like me. During our conversation otp he discussed that he was sexually frustrated and i also mentioned getting a hostel to save money and I said nvm we wouldn’t be able to do anything and he said exactly. So I’m under the impression that affectionate will be shown especially that he said one of his love languages is physical touch and it doesn’t have to be sexual, just little things such as holding hands , hugging, etc .. the simple things. But he wasn’t going for any of that so I started to get concerned. We stayed in the same bed together throughout the beginning of the trip one morning I asked to cuddle and he didn’t say anything so I decided to lay my head on him literally that’s all I did and put my arm around his chest. I can’t remember what happened after that but we got into an argument and he said the reason he doesn’t show affection or want to be touched is because he was sexually assaulted when he was younger. After that was said he wanted me to go home, he mentioned having 2 panic attacks and he’s being reminded of what happened to him. I did nothing against his will I didn’t touch him inappropriately and it’s messing with me mentally because he’s making me seem like a rapist. I apologized to him over and over I even cried and idk what more else to do. He’s aware he needs help and he doesn’t want to get it. Any advice ?

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