Tl;dr My husband 30M and I 28f have been married for over 5 years. We have had plenty of good times, and bad. I have several mental illnesses that I push aside to make sure I can be there for my husband and our 4yo daughter. I’ve always had problems communicating my feelings but here lately I’ve been getting better at doing so. But I feel that almost every time I try to do so, my husband automatically starts to defend his actions and gets angry that I’m upset. So I shut down almost every time. I’m not perfect by any means, and I know I have my flaws. My husband constantly reminds me of how I’m the one who doesn’t know how to communicate. I’ve tried to ask him several times if he would attend marriage counseling with me but refuses and says “I’m the one with the problem”. I have plenty of backstory but will not dive into that right now. I hold a lot of resentment towards him, but I don’t know how to resolve it if he won’t go to a counselor to work it through with me. I feel like he would sooner get a divorce rather than work through this but he hasn’t actually said those words so I’m not sure if that’s really the case. Has anyone had any luck in a situation like this before? Are there alternatives? I really don’t want to lose my husband, but I don’t really know what else to do. Please no hate, I’m just asking for advice. Thank you for reading.tl;dr