So I’m part of a trio of friends: me(19 F), my roommate J (19 F) and another friend X (20 M). X has feelings for J, but she is a lesbian so X has already given up. He gave up on pursuing her romantically but that doesn’t change the feelings he has for J. My problem is, sometimes I feel very excluded when I’m hanging with both of them. I kind of feel lost in the conversations and sometimes they won’t answer my questions like “who are we talking about?”, they have so many similarities between them so it’s like I’m left out. I’m always doing things they like just hoping I’ll be part of the group. I’m very chill with J, I think the problem is X. I care about him so much but I don’t feel the same coming from him, it’s almost as if I’m just J’s roommate for him. We only hang out me and X when J is sure to show up at the end (if not, it’s like X vanishes), and when we hang out is like he would prefer to be with J, always talking about her. It’s like I’m a consolation prize, the last option. Also, they are my only friends at the city I’m currently living, I don’t know how to deal with this and I’m sure it’s not their intention at all for me to feel like this, it just sort of happens. I just feel so sad about it, they are everything to me.