using a throwaway account but i need a bit of advice if anyone has some tips!
i’m not sure if it’s a mental barrier i haven’t been able to get over yet or not, as i am often stuck in my head. sometimes i feel like “god that must have been one!” because the intensity has built up so much that my body starts quivering and tensing but it just kinda stops or i stop myself because it’s too intense/overwhelming. my friends are very sex positive, we’re quite open with each other and apparently i’d definitely know if i’ve orgasmed so i guess i haven’t. i don’t know anyone who has struggled with this so i thought i’d ask here as i love this subreddit and have picked up some great tips before!
okay for a bit of backstory, i’ve had a rough past as my dad took advantage of me up until i was about 14 and the relationships i was previously in seemed to be following a similar pattern. i have also been on antidepressants since i was 15 which could make orgasming more difficult. i’ve put a lot of work into healing from my past and have been in a really good place for over a year now! i used to always need a drink before getting intimate with anyone because it would be anxiety provoking but now i just want to jump their bones!
i’ve experimented a lot sexually at this point and my current partner is extremely supportive, loving and tender. i just feel very safe with them and we have reallllly great sex, the chemistry and just genuine connection is the best so i’ve been getting SO close. i often stop when it feels too intense, i don’t really like clitoral stimulation because of how sensitive my clit is, it just feels way too intense. i also don’t masturbate, i’ve tried plenty of times but it just doesn’t do it for me like it doesn’t really turn me on or i get bored after a while.
i’m just not sure if whats holding me back from actually having an orgasm is the mental barrier or not. i’m still on antidepressants but i’ve never been more healthier or happier than i am now! i’ve also never been this close to experiencing an orgasm before, my partner makes me feel so attractive and actually WANTS to give me pleasure we will try anything lol
any advice or insight on what might help?