I’ve been in a relationship for about 15 months now. It’s my first real adult relationship since living on my own but not my first relationship overall. However, It’s my girlfriends first relationship ever. Recently I told her I needed some space to think about where I wanted to take the relationship because I’ve been unhappy.
The main issues stem from what I think is emotional immaturity on her part. She’s always had an insulting sense of humor that’s bothered me. Ex. things like making fun of my clothes, my body, my interests, the way I talk, etc. in every instance I’ve communicated to her very respectfully and calmly how this makes me feel and she’s generally receptive to what I have to say but the behavior hasn’t changed. Most recently she called my outfit disgusting (we were hanging out at a friends house and I was wearing jeans and a zip up jacket). I didn’t outright tell her this bothered me, but I alluded to the comment a couple more times over the next couple days and she tripled down and stood by her comment saying she doesn’t like when I dress average. Usually I would have told her how this made me feel, but I didn’t this time.
I feel like I’ve communicated my emotional needs and boundaries as clearly as I possibly can. I genuinely don’t feel like I could have been any more clear. After telling her I need space she begged me for another chance, stating that she would really take the time and effort to learn my emotional needs and be more perceptive to me. But it’s been 15 months, and if she wasn’t doing that in the first place I feel like I might have wasted my time. I do love her very very much and I don’t doubt at all that she loves me, and I also don’t doubt that she is serious about doing better and wants to make this work. But my patience is almost depleted and I have been unhappy for at least 3 months now. I just don’t know what to do at this point and I can’t drag it on forever without making a decision soon. Should I give it another chance?