I (32F) had a huge crush in one of my college teachers back in the day. He was married at the time and I knew it was wrong but I was young and stupid. He was 27 at the time and I was 19 when we first met and he was the most handsome guy I had seen until then, we became friends even though he was my teacher and slowly we developed a platonic relationship, I didn’t want to cross any boundaries but I started falling for him. Eventually I realized that he felt the same way and then he told me he loved me but we didn’t do anything until he divorced his wife and then we had an affaire but it didn’t last. He was one of those great loves in my life and it took a while for me to accept the fact that it didn’t quite work out. 2 years after our attempt of affaire I met my current boyfriend Oliver (38 m) and the love of my life I didn’t want to have a serious relationship at the beginning because I was still healing from that failed affaire, but he quickly became a great friend and then we started dating, fast forward to now we have been together for 7 years and never had any issues, we almost never fight except for some normal disagreements that we manage to solve without any problems, none of us is the jealous type and I have never had issues with him having close female friends or being close with other women, he even became extremely close with my best friend and I’ve never had a single bad thought about it, now we come to the actual problem were I might be wrong, he is a college teacher and lately has talked to me about a group of female students that follow him around and help him with some projects he has been assigned to, but I have noticed that one of them, Amy, became extremely close to him and texts him in a daily basis she even talks to him about her intimate stuff and about her boyfriends or hook ups, at the beginning I didn’t see anything wrong but lately it feels off and I remember the time were I was the student becoming close to a married teacher and how it ended and wonder if this girl Amy could be feeling the way I used to feel back then and if my boyfriend could be emotionally cheating… I haven’t talk to him about this because I’ve never felt this way before, never doubted and I have never been insecure before, so am I reading to much of it because of my past?