Dating for a year and a half. Our sex life was always a bomb. I am always in the mood, I never say no, I want whatever he might think of.
But from time to time he has a hard time keeping an erection or he’d need a while to get hard.
For past one week he had a hard time getting him up, we can cuddle for a while and he’d get only semi hard. We had sex 4 days ago that lasted for about 5 mins as if he was in a hurry not to lose it again. Since then I didn’t initiate it as I have seen he was a bit frigid. But last night we were watching some regular tv show and there was a sex scene that got him semi hard. I got to feel bad thinking I am laying there naked and he isn’t even noticing despite almost sexless life lately, but some brief sex scene with nothing even visible got him excited.
We talked about it he said he wasn’t even feeling it getting harder and that if he got a bit bigger doesn’t mean it got hard and that nothing there excited him.
I addressed my concern of him not reacting to me but on such a senseless scene and I told him that I miss having sex. He said he feels he has a problem as it’s not even getting hard in the morning etc.
So what confused me most – I told him I think he has no health issue but he got too comfy out of seeing me everyday and that I think he should invest more passion into our sex life, make it unexpected, crazier, stop considering me a woman he sees daily but a woman many would love to sleep with and restore his chemistry. After I said that he instantly got erection and grabbled me to have sex.
Can some man please enlighten me what is going on in my relationship? Because I am clueless from his not reacting to me but reacting to a sex scene all the way to all of a sudden reacting to me.