My husband and I hold an informal relationship review every few weeks to check in with each other and make sure we are both putting in the required effort to make our marriage work.
Today he brought it up while we were having breakfast in the cafe. I was a little taken back because we usually schedule them so that we have time to think of things we would like to bring up.
He has been feeling a little flat lately and was worried he was placing too much of the emotional burden on me. I had to reassure him this wasn’t the case.
I then asked how he was feeling about the intimacy. A few months ago he shared that he would like to be more intimate but appreciated that I was struggling with my mental health. I pointed out that since that review, we have essentially had a flip and now he is struggling to find the time and energy for sex. I shared that I was OK with how things were now, if he was, and he thanked me for taking the pressure off, as he noticed this too. He then paid for breakfast and we went home for cuddles.
We’ve both been trapped before wanting to keep things “good” by holding ourselves to our perceived standards of others. Now we are getting to the point were sex once a week is great, as long as its good enough for us!
We’re five years in, and I don’t think things could be better than they are. I love him with my whole heart ❤️