She literally can’t function without a lot of additional support from me and her father. She has a few diagnosed chronic conditions but they are the “mild” form and aren’t ‘bad enough’ for disability plus she can hold down a job but has to quit after a max of 5 years because she will get nervous break downs. She has extreme sleepiness from her illnesses. I’ve seen her starve herself for days because she can’t get out of bed.
She has periods of normal energy and function but those are few.
If she wants to have a social life (going out) she has to make a day of it and needs time to recover after.
She can’t do anything for herself chore wise when she works because of how badly she “crashes” (that’s what she calls it what happens is that she is often so tired chores make her sleep longer).
We left for three months and she fell apart and nearly got fired. She had crying fits in the morning because of how hard it was for her to get the basics done.
We do blame ourselves because we were not present when she needed us as a child and we both know we didn’t do enough to teach her life skills but we are lost at what to do at this point.
Tldr; Our daughter needs support but we’re getting old.