i’ve been with my girlfriend [20f] for a little over a year. we’ve had sex a lot, but i’ve never felt pleasure when i orgasm. never. it’s not that she’s not stimulating me, or that sex doesn’t feel good at all, or even that i’m not orgasming — she turns me on, (sometimes) the sex itself feels good (sometimes it really hurts, even though it’s non-penetrative), and i know for a fact that i do orgasm, but it never feels like anything. instead, any sensation that i’d been having just…stops, after i orgasm. there’s no build-up and no release.
it’s really frustrating, because my gf really enjoys sex, but i honestly find it to be pretty disappointing most of the time. i enjoy topping, i.e., making her orgasm, but she wants to do me, too, a lot. but it feels pointless when it doesn’t lead up to anything; and even when the sex itself feels good, it’s nothing mind blowing or even great. it just…is.
i need to know if there’s a name for this, or if anyone else has experienced this — if you have, do you have any solutions? have you been able to reach a good, pleasurable orgasm? please help!! i’m going crazy