As the title said. I met this guy about 2 weeks ago while visiting my hometown and we had an instant connection. After spending 3 wonderful days together as if we were a couple, we said goodbye. Tbh, those days were already strange enough for me because Id never experienced somethin like that, but it felt so good.
Even though we agreed to keep in touch, I never thought it would work out. It made me extremely sad and I tried to get him out of my head for the next few days. But suddenly he was texting me again. He told me he’s coming to visit me in the next few weeks, that he’s looking for a flight to book.
I’m super happy that we’re following up and can’t wait to see him again, but I’m a bit weirded out and insecure because no one has ever been that interested in me (and for what I feel, romantically interested). I have the feeling all the time that it must be something wrong, something that I’m missing, and that I’m going to end up hurt for whatever reason. He’s going across the country to see me and I still wonder if he likes me enough. It makes me anxious that he’s going to lose interest at any moment.
How can I avoid feeling this way? I want to enjoy this. Now our convo died, so I have some time to think about this. Any advice?
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Seems like he is definitely interested in you. For some reason I totally relate to what you say. I think a past life experience makes you cautious. Just relax and live in the present, without thinking about the next day. What is meant for you will stay, no need to worry. Just let things unfold as they must. Best of luck though.
So it’s great that it has you feeling good, I would focus on the positive aspect that our enjoy spending time with him and the ways you felt good when you were together.
But I also have to say, listen to your gut. You say something feels off and makes you anxious. I’m not saying call it off and forget about him completely, but just try to be aware of everything and be careful. Also think long and hard about what a long distance relationship is, and if that’s something you feel is doable for you. Plenty of people have made them work, but for others distance can make it impossible to feel happy in a relationship. You have to decide if it’s an option for you, don’t put yourself in a situation where you know you will be unhappy.
Unless you just want a casual fling and aren’t looking to be serious, that’s also totally fine as well. Do whatever you need to do to be happy.
if he hasn’t booked the flight yet then maybe don’t worry about it too much. He may be excited until he plays it out. Maybe he will settle in and stop pursuing. maybe he will stay interested and even move states to be with you! Who knows. The only thing you can do is be true to your own feelings.
Had a guy I was talking to and decided to book a ticket and vacation and meet him in one swoop. Met him and it felt like a fairytale. Less than a week after he told me he was looking into flights to come visit me now, he ghosted me. Dont think too much into him until he actually books the flight and shows up. Actions speak louder than words and lots of dudes like to flap their lips to try and keep a girl interested.