When I was actively on OLD apps, I’d frequently come across profiles that had some variation of “I’m shy/quiet until you get to know me and my guard is down.” I never understood that, because how does someone get to know you if your guard is up? And if they’re shy/quiet and their guard is up, what does a date look like in that scenario? Is it just shorthand for “expect to talk on this a lot longer before you ever actually meet me?” I can see IRL scenarios where that can happen organically – two co-workers slowly warm up to each other, guy works up the courage to ask group study buddy out at end of term, etc – but OLD is like the opposite of that. “You two clicked similar buttons, tadaaaa, match.”
Verbatim, just now: “Like, how do… wh.. how does… uh… ya… how?” Can someone explain?