Hi all, I would like some concrete steps to follow because I really want to rectify this.
I am emotional and sometimes I feel frustrated and act on impulse. It makes me feel extremely bad afterward and I apologize wholeheartedly. But, I want to really stop this kind of immaturity in the first place and permanently.
I realize it is rude, and it is is painful to realize I unknowingly insulted someone I really care about. I don’t want to cause any drama whatsover and want to be well-adjusted and happy.
How do I —
1) control myself better and not give in to impulse? I don’t realize it during that moment, it doesn’t make me feel good AT ALL to act on impulse. I feel progressively worse with each passing second when I say something stupid.
2) be more calm and quiet? I feel nervous often and am unable to compose myself. Just want to relax.
What are some concrete steps I can follow? I can remove myself from the situation (go offline if on phone), I can just remind myself to behave normally (how to do this more often), I can be more mindful of what I say. I can follow a codeword the other person can use to just tell me to get lost when I’m being annoying and rude. I’m desperate and I’ll stop this anyhow.
Please help me out. I don’t know where else to put it.