TLDR: My gf has bpd and while I love her and the rs is often great, her mood swings are making me feel low and question the rs at times.
My gf of a year has bpd and it’s affecting my mental health. It’s the feeling of being on edge that bothers me, I’m often worried about her snapping and its kinda like walking on eggshells. I feel like I’m kinda numb to it bc my last gf had rly severe bpd so this seems less in comparison so I’m looking for outside opinions ig.
Anyone who’s dating someone with bpd knows what it’s like, the highs are amazing but the lows are rough. Normally everything is great but when she has a mood swing she can really make me feel shitty. She sometimes apologises after but it doesn’t erase how I felt. I also feel like I can’t talk about things she does that upset me because she gets angry at herself and that makes her bpd flare up and it kinda switches the convo into me being the one in the wrong. I should add she has had therapy in the past but is adamant it doesn’t help as her mental health is just related to her current living situation.
I do love her but it’s just tough and it hasn’t really changed in the year I’ve known her. My own mental health isn’t the best at times, I have depression and adhd and that can be exhausting in itself. Sometimes I think back to when I broke up with my last gf with bpd and I just felt so relaxed kinda. Just not feeling on edge a lot of the time. My current gfs bpd isn’t as bad though and she is self aware so I’m just so torn on what to do. What should I do in my situation? Any advice appreciated