My boyfriend(25m) confessed to me (25f) that he doesn’t find my body that attractive. We have been together for a little over three years. I don’t have the dream body admittedly, I have a small chest, wide hips with some cake, but not big enough apparently, and I don’t have a flat stomach (chubby all around), which is something he claimed to have adored at the beginning of our relationship, even in the years after. He doesn’t have a greek god body himself by any means, he is slender, and he doesn’t expect me to change. He is sad that this is how he feels, although to you it might sound like he is manipulating me, he isn’t, he is genuinely the sweetest guy ever. I was devastated when he confessed this, he of course said it more gently but “I’m sorry, my love, you know I like those things bigger” isn’t exactly comforting to hear, so yea I’m sad but I’m not fragile enough to crumble cuz of his confession, just blindsided and sad, that’s all. I’m not angry with him, nor do I blame him or think that he is wrong, he did nothing wrong, it’s a preference, opinions can be changed but preferences, I think not so much. I had been voicing that I wanted to go to the gym last couple of months (money issues that’s why im not going, I’m not American and here gym is expensive) but now I don’t know. Our libido mutually isn’t that high, it isn’t low but it isn’t high high, so I guess this is fine. Our sex life is great, i didn’t sense any problems, but..eh here we are, although he says that it isn’t a problem. I guess I’m just wondering if I’m alone in this type of situation. I already planned to get my assets bigger by going to the gym and in the future getting a cosmetic surgery (solely my opinions and wants) but now I’m wondering if I should because I want him to love me as I am, not to start loving me completely once I build cake and get a boob job. Should I still go through with these?
tl;dr: My boyfriend doesn’t consider my assets big enough although our sex life is great, I already planned to get my assets bigger but now I’m conflicted in whether I should.