Hi all,
I (28M) have been in the same group of friends with this girl (22F) for about a year. We’re all very close, and she’s especially flirty, playful with me. We have great chemistry and enjoy spending our time with each other. Tbh I’ve had a crush on her for a while last summer but it ended quickly. She broke up with her bf about 4 months ago and in the meanwhile she started seeing someone else (who lives far tho).
During the Christmas holidays we’ve become much closer and physical with each other and started going out just the two of us as friends. So I made my move and asked her out as a date just to see how things go between us. She said she had to think about it cause she was also going on a 5 day vacation with the guy she’s seeing. I told her that since we’re friends and I don’t want to ruin our friendship we can take things easy, start seeing each other after her vacation (I went out with someone too in the meanwhile) with no exclusivity for the moment. Still I told her that we’re doing this not to just fool around but to see where things go and she accepted it.
A couple of days later I received a text from her saying she was up for it but didn’t want to tell any of our friends cause she would have felt weird about it. So for the moment we decided to keep it for us only.
After she came back from her vacation we went out on a date, had a great time together and spent the rest of the night playing, kissing and eventually hooking up in the back of my car. I actually loved every minute of it.
Last night we went out with our friends and something happened. She behaved cold towards me most of the time and spent the a lot of it texting the guy she’s been seeing. Moreover, she told my best friend she hooked up with this guy while on vacation.
Now, I really don’t care about what she did with him and cannot say anything about it, we’re non exclusive to each other right now and we were not really dating. Yet, I don’t understand why she had to tell my best friend fully knowing he would have told me.
I figured she’s definitely been having some emotional issues lately and she’s trying to fill the void desperately. Yet, I feel her behaviour is quite erratic. She then texted me after we went back home asking if I was doing ok (she knew I got the message) to which I didn’t reply.
What’s your take on this?