So myself (m34) and my gf of about 6 months were getting intimate and she called me by someone else’s name. We are poly and this is someone she very casually dates and has only had sex with like twice. Only once since we started dating at the beginning of our relationship.
This girl REALLY likes me, like alot. We live 2 hours away from one another and we see each other every other weekend. I’m really into her as well, wonderful relationship all around.
We are completely open with one another if we go on dates, or fool around with others. We are both totally ok with it.
That being said, it definitely made me feel uneasy. She felt TERRIBLE afterwards. I didn’t really get upset at her or anything. I just kinda got up and went into the other room. She immediately started crying, had a few panic attacks. I could tell she was VERY distressed about it. It fucked her up. She was crying saying ” please dont break up with me”. I just remained cool and just wanted to find out why.
Literally earlier that night we were talking and she was telling me how much she actually found him obnoxious.
Like I said our relationship is honestly amazing. One of the best ive ever been in, even if its just 6 months. She was sooo destroyed the rest of the night crying and felt so bad.
I’m trying not to make a big deal about it because I know brains do weird things especially when your brain gets all wracked up from having sex. Also just her level of how upset, and how regretfully of it she was, makes me think it was a weird brain slip.
She has made it VERY clear since her and I got into a relationship that what they have is casually and will never be a relationship. She very rarely sees him anyway.
I’m thinking its really nothing to worry about, but just wanted to put this out there.