My girlfriend and I have had a pretty great dating life so far, we’ve been together for about 2 years and I’ve started to notice recently that she’s becoming more aggressive. A few months ago we were telling stories of our exes and I told her I’ve never been with a guy experimentally or had penetrative sex. She said she’s always wanted to pop someone’s cherry and would love to try some toys. Reluctantly, I agreed, so she got a strap-on and some other things. I told her it was fun and left it at that. Honestly, it was okay, maybe a 3/10, nothing to write home about. I think she took this as a personal offense and started getting more toys, longer, larger, more ridiculous.
She’s experimenting with so many different territories and sex went from once in awhile to a few times weekly. I’m 4’10, she’s 6’2, and it’s getting to the point where it’s becoming kind of scary because she is so rough. I’ve tried expressing my concerns about the toys she’s getting and asked if she’s doing okay, like emotionally and such, and she said she’s fine and is just grateful that I’m willing to let her experiment. I’m getting to the point where I’m so sore, I haven’t gone to the gym in a month, and I have the occasional welt or bruise that’s visible at work. I don’t know what to do, while I enjoy sex, I’m not 100% enjoying it with all the toys. I don’t know how else to really address my concerns because she really seems fine and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Don’t get me wrong, most times it’s absolutely great, she knows what she’s doing now, but sometimes it’s really painful.