Basically there’s this guy who I met at a party last semester, we flirted all night and since then he’s been giving out the signal that he wants to talk to me/he’ll try to talk to me but I get too anxious and walk away. I decided I probably made him think I wasn’t interested so to show him I am still I decided to request him on ig, he accepted and followed me back but I haven’t gotten a dm from him which I was kinda expecting him to send so now I feel like it’s up to me to send one. Also side note I have pretty bad social anxiety and bc of that I can usually sense when other ppl are anxious and this guy seems like a really nervous person(at least he is around me), so it seems like he’s too scared to make a move and get essentially turned down again.
The suggestions I’ve seen online for sending a guy a dm are either way to formal/forward or don’t apply to situations where you’ve talked to the guy and know he likes you too. I thought about sending “your turn lol”, “I saw you in the dining hall yesterday and wanted to say hi but I got nervous so I walked away and dropped my pickles lol”, I’m scared those are too weird tho but the thing is that’s just how I’d say it naturally I think. Also am I being too thirsty in sending a dm? I don’t wanna seem desperate ntm in the past when I’ve made a move the guy gets an ego abt it and I don’t want that to happen(although my friends say frankly he could use an ego boost bc he isn’t confident around me).