DISCLAIMER: This is NOT an advertisement. I honestly just want to know if my experience is “normal” and possibly what this may say about my identity.
[32M]:
Sometimes I just really want to eat some pussy for the fun of it. To provide a woman with pleasure with no expectations for reciprocation. I’m not sure I fully understand it, but:
Is this something that other guys/people experience? Is there a descriptor/identity for something like this?
I’m a man in my early 30s and something I’ve noticed over the last 3-4 years is a strong desire to just want to eat women out with the goal of making them feel really good/making them cum. In all aspects of sex, I’ve always drawn pleasure from making others feel pleasure. Not that I don’t feel pleasure from sex (trust me, I do. very easily), there’s just also an additional, elevating mental pleasure/satisfaction from knowing they feel good. And sometimes I crave to feel that pleasure specifically.
Sometimes the desire stems from just wanting to see the facial expressions of pleasure a woman makes when she is in ecstasy. To see the uncontrollable squirming and body twitches. To hear their breaths go from calm and deep to short, intense, erratic gasps. To hear their moans go from whispers to muffled screams. To watch their body elevate from the bed as the climax as I stimulate them through their orgasm. To see the *exhausted yet satisfied* look of joy on their face afterwards.
Honestly, I sometimes think the desire has stemmed from wanting to prove my worth to someone (or myself). It feels like I sometimes eat pussy with a chip on my shoulder and another person’s orgasm is a validation of worth that I’m constantly looking for.
Sometimes it’s a friend whom I really love platonically that I also admittedly fantasize about crossing that line and giving her an orgasm (or multiple) as an odd “thank you” or show or appreciation for her friendship. It’s also a curiosity of seeing someone I’m close with experience pleasure.
Sometimes it’s a lover whom I want to make feel really good or to cheer them up when they’re feeling down.
Sometimes it’s a complete stranger whom I think is just very beautiful and carries themselves with class. It’s like I want to see the freak come out of the *good girl*. Or that I find them so attractive/admirable that I want to express the passion behind that attraction/admiration in a sexual way.
The reality is though, I’m not someone who actually enjoys having sex with a bunch of strangers. It feels empty and like I lose respect for myself. But I can’t deny the desires I have to make others feel pleaure.
I really love eating pussy. I love feeling the texture of a clitoris go from soft to hard as I massage it with my tongue. And admittedly, it’s been a while since I’ve gone down on a woman. I wonder if I’m just missing the act. But even when I was with my last partner, I still felt this way. I ate my partner out ALOT, often times til she tapped out. I always enjoyed the feeling of knowing I was making her feel good along with the challenge of seeing if I could make her cum one more time. It was the same with other partners before, this one just wasn’t as quick to ask for a break as previous partners. She’d let me go as long as I wanted. Still, I wanted to eat a lot of pussy. When I had multiple partners, I still had moods where I wanted to eat a new person out. I really just want to have someone who I trust and feel safe with to come over so i can eat them out. But I’m getting a little off subject.
Is this a normal experience for a guy to have? Is there a name/term for just wanting to please other people on occasion?