So I (27F)work at a long-term care facility and assisted living, and most of the people there are 80 or older, but there’s one guy there who had a bunch of physical issues from being obese a and has mobility issues and is bedridden, so he’s only like 65.
He owned a construction company, and he had a wife and kids, so he didn’t have any intellectual disabilities either. He makes comments that make me uncomfortable, like telling me I miss my favorite CNA. He asked me to blow him a kiss all the time, and he asked me to stay with him and watch TV for hours. He’ll tell me he’s in love with me, and he’ll ask me that if he ever leaves the facility, we can get a house together and live together in a lovely home on the beach.
He’d bring up videos of different houses on TV and try to get Me to watch them with him and say, I want to buy this house with you . he constantly asked the others Cna‘s if they could get me to come into the room. He’ll continuously ask the other CNAs to switch the assignment so that I’m his.
One week, I watched the COVID patients, so I couldn’t have different assignments because I was assigned all the COVID patients. he got super upset and cried and said he wanted to leave the facility because I wasn’t there. I’m starting to get uncomfortable with all his comments, and I refuse to go in the room anymore. I’m scared to tell management because everybody acts like he’s the sad baby or acts like he’s the unfortunate child and babysits him a lot, but I think what he’s doing is gross and inappropriate.
I understand he’s lonely, and I’m sympathetic to that, but I’m tired of coming to work and having this guy tell me that I’m beautiful, I should be a celebrity, and that he wants to be with me, and that I should stay in the room for hours. My other coworkers don’t see how he treats me and act like oh, why don’t you say hi to Mark? Why don’t you go to his room? And I’m scared to report sexual harassment that no one will take me seriously. This is what this man is doing: sexual harassment. How should I deal with when a patient sexually harasses me?
Tl;dr: patient at my work with no intellectual disabilities, constantly hits on me and tells me that he’s in love with me and he wants me to borrow him a case, and I’m uncomfortable with it, and my coworkers don’t see that he harasses me and I don’t know what it does.