I need to give some context before asking my main question. I’m a 24m, don’t drink, smoke weed maybe every other day at max, work out 5 days a week but I do work remote. No idea if this is relevant but I’m bisexual and recently started becoming more ok with that side of me so maybe 10 weeks ago I started experimenting with a dildo and a prostate massager which I really enjoy. I probably masturbate 2 to 3 times a week and it’s been that way since I can remember. I should note I was also super sick for around 6 weeks and only got better a week or two ago.
I recently reconnected with an old friend 20F and we’ve started dating. chemistry is great, sex is really good, she has a really high libido and I historically have to, despite my masturbation schedule when I’m in a relationship I’m pretty much down for daily sex. I’ve had an issue starting a few weeks ago however where I’m struggling to stay hard at the very beginning of intercourse, zero issue after we start, once I penetrate her I can go for 20+ minutes without getting even slightly soft, she’s always down for 3+ rounds and by round three it takes a fair amount of coaxing to get hard.
after this happened I tried abstaining from everything for a week and this definitely made me more aroused but round 2 was still harder and we still had to try quite a bit of hand stroking to get me hard. This of course worries me and every time moving forward I think of that and it makes it harder to get hard, once we get it in zero issues though for round 3+. I’m worried because I feel like just 12 months ago I could get rock hard no problem and I’m not sure if the anal play is the problem, if I should get my T levels checked or if masturbating at all with any stimuli is the problem. maybe I’m just getting old. Should I just go back to my typical masturbation pattern and stop putting so much pressure on myself to switch up my schedule?