Feels strange to ask for this advice at my age, but here it is. Question first: should I give ONS a try?
I (F33) have now gone almost 3 years (and before that an almost 5 year gap) without sex and I’m kind of losing my mind. I have plenty of toys but masturbation just doesn’t cut it anymore. My libido used to always be really high but is starting to disappear because of this. I miss the physical closeness of being with people. I cuddled a friend the other day and nearly cried because I forgot how warm someone can be when you’re close, so I’m really touch starved.
Thanks to covid my social circle is tiny and I’m not willing to fuck up any of my remaining friendships by asking them to be fwb out of nowhere. I’m trying to date, but because I’m monogamous and kinky in a very poly community, it’s been a no go for years, even before covid.
I feel especially iffy about it because I’ve gained some weight the last few years and my confidence is super low because of it. I am worried about STI’s and the other dangers. I’m really not the type to have meaningless sex but I don’t know what else to do. Any advice would be appreciated.