Long post ahead but I really need your help.
So the sex life with my wife is great. But I have just one problem. Even after years of sex with her, I still finish after literally 5-10 seconds.
Some observations:
When I was younger I trained myself to be able to stop the ejaculation. So I cum, but nothing comes out. Thanks to that I can continue the sex even after cumming, but my dick becomes a bit less hard, and the lust for me is over.
For a long time it didn’t bother me too much, and neither my wife. But now it’s really starting to annoy me.
I am not stressed during sex. I have had sex literally thousands of times with my wife, we are very active. So it’s not that.
My theory is that I’ve trained my muscle to stop the ejaculation too much (with kegels) when I was younger, and now it‘s overreacting. So I‘ve started to do reverse kegels for some time now, but it doesn’t really seem to do much.
I am also circumsized because of a phimosis I had as a kid, if that’s important. Perhaps the head of my penis is just too sensible?
During blowjobs and anal I can also last a lot longer, which is interesting. I think it‘s the tightness around the head of my penis that is „too much“.
Does anybody have an idea how I can last longer in bed? Me and my wife like trying new things, and we have very open discussions about this topic, so talking about it isn‘t a problem.