I’m not exactly sure of this fits, but I need some advice, please.
My partner and I have been together around a year, and being with him also meant spending time with his family. They love eating out, and so do I! When they invite me, though, my (lack of a better term) SIL always insists on getting seafood.
I am deathly allergic to seafood.
The last time I tried to make accommodations by sitting away from her, I still got sick from the exposure.
I’m currently sitting in the car away from her because she insisted on getting the crab Benedict at this brunch place.
I want to spend time with the family, and I do spend time with the family outside of restaurants. I do wish I could express how badly seafood hurts me. She has an allergy and says she understands how bad it gets.
I want to believe that it is all benevolent and she just wants to eat her seafood. I want to also believe I am not over reacting by leaving the table and/or restaurant because of the possibility of cross contamination.
How should I calmly and accurately express to SIL and family that I really can not be around seafood even if she sits far away from me at a table?
TLDR: I’m allergic to seafood, SIL loves seafood and insists getting it. How do I explain I can’t be near the seafood at all? Help.