Got rejected by a woman
I (M20) got rejected by a woman (F212).
Recently, I was given advice that I should lower my standards and go for women who aren’t necessarily attractive or in good shapes but treat it seriously if not for the practice: I bit the bullet, and went on my first date in a year+ with this women who’ll I name Leslie and we met in Downtown Denver.
The date itself was boring like I couldn’t hold her interest. Afterwards I ended up being absolutely annihilated by her, and ended up being called a “dollar-store man” which hurt because I’m ngl that’s coming from someone who’s extremely overweight and has a child (which I didn’t know about). She also said “I’m not the type of guy she’d f#ck” then proceeded to block me. I felt like absolute dogshit and my friends didn’t help by saying “she’s spitting facts” etc.
I don’t know if it’s my personality, but I’d like to believe I’m decently attractive – I’m 6’1, in really pretty good shape, I have hobbies like reading and BJJ, I have a whole ass hygiene routine, I’m in the Army…
Is there just no chance in the dating world? How do I get a better personality? Do I have to look like a model? I can’t seem to make dating work for me and I worry I’ll end up lonely.