What boundaries do you set for casual dating or FWB situations and how?

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1. We bust talk about them, usually me will ask about rules

2. Don’t expect me to bend over backwards or dote on you. I do not like it when people expect more than they give. So if I feel like more is expected of the than fair, I’m outie 9000

3. Queer as folk rules for fwb – no one more than once, I don’t host. You play at the club or halfsies on a hotel room.

   Casual – is just that. We’re just getting to know each other, it isn’t serious or exclusive. I’ve never had a problem with this, the people I go out with understand what this means. Only on reddit are people confused.

4. Maybe I’m unusual but I have an exclusive fwb situation, meaning we don’t have sex with other people (no multiple fwb) mostly just to keep ourselves safe. I date, but I don’t have sex on the first date so it hasn’t been an issue. When I did have a boyfriend the fwb and I were still talking because we’re actually friends and not just fuck buddies. When the relationship fizzled out, I got tested again and we resumed having sex.

5. I haven’t found it’s usually necessary because I tend to be on the same page as my FWBs about where we stand, but it can be good to talk about:

   * are you open to things getting romantic at some point or are you absolutely not?
   * how much do you want to hear or share (if any) about other people that either of you may be seeing?
   * when did each of you last get tested for STIs and what do you want your current safer sex protocols to be?
   * how much contact do you want (texting, etc.) or not want?
   * which sex acts are you open to doing and which are you not?
   * do you need anything in terms of aftercare (e.g. cuddling, a thank you text the next day, etc.)?