we, 20f and 18m, have been doing long distance for 2 weeks. we have been together for a year. last night my bf said he doesn’t want to do it anymore because he hates long distance and doesn’t think he can do it long term.
we plan on seeing each other once every 3-4 weeks, we text frequently and call almost every night (sometimes we don’t because he is on call with his friends instead). sometimes i don’t text him for a few hours as im a student and have lectures, clubs and socials to attend. he is unemployed and literally does nothing with his days so he gets bored and frustrated if i can’t text him super often.
i’m in the mindset that i would happily do 5 years long distance if it means that one day i can be with him. but he’d rather throw everything away bc it’s hard. i’m finding it hard too, but i would rather stay and put effort in!
he has said he doesn’t want to break up yet, but probably soon. UNLESS there is change and i message him more often. since he said that i have been putting in more effort to text him whenever i can but he seems disinterested in the convos or just rude. i know he’s struggling right now and feeling isolated and i don’t know what to do. should i stay with him or just get it over with because i know breaking up will be so painful and i’m so scared of dragging it out when i know it’s inevitable.
tl;dr i want to stay together but he wants to breakup because he doesn’t want long distance.