This is my first Reddit post, so please bear with me. We’ve been together for around 3 years. He is respectful, caring, kind, funny, etc. but he has a pretty big problem with control and insecurity (I think).
In the last 1.5 years or so I have mentioned to him that I feel like l’m losing my friends. I have cried and been in a little depression because of it. Two of my close friends I’ve had since I was 10 came to town for the holidays with their significant others. All 6 of us went out and had a great time! The next day, I was yelled at for making him stay out too late and that our plans changed too much throughout the night (different bars). I told him while we were out if he wanted to go home, he could, and l’d have my friends drive me home, and he refused because he didn’t want me out without him. Fast-forward to today.
One of my best friends(who he likes) sent me an invitation to her birthday celebration. The invite states it’s an all-girls dinner with dancing after. I sent him a screenshot of the info and let him know that I was planning on attending.
That is when he blew up and told me if I drink or if I don’t get home by 11PM then he is breaking up with me. He made this a RULE and says if I ever go out I have to stick to it. I don’t understand what I am doing wrong in these situations. There are more instances but I don’t want this to be too long. I’ve never been unfaithful or given him any reason not to trust me. What should I say/do?