I’m getting really frustrated and discouraged. I (32f) have had no luck with these “sparks” everyone says you’re supposed to feel when you meet “the one.” I’ve been on several good dates, perfectly cool and nice people, but no “sparks flying” or that phenomenon everyone talks about of “when you know they’re the one, it’ll hit you.” I usually give it 2-3 dates before I call it quits or just let the relationship fizzle out. What am I doing wrong? Am I putting too much pressure on the “sparks” sensation? Is it sometimes more subtle than that? I just keep waiting for that instant connection and “this is the one” feeling.