I’m starting to think that I’m more in love with the idea of love than I am actually in love with him. He’s nice and sweet bit I think I find him too passive for my taste? I have to plan literally all of our dates. I planned out a special birthday gift. I planned our first meeting.
When he missed our dates twice, he just apologized but didn’t offer an alternative in place. I don’t like having to lead all the time and I want someone who will intrinsically want to care for me as much as I take care of them. The fact that I have to plan everything is just a huge turn off.
I think he cares more about intentions and words than actions and that’s not something I want for the rest of my life. Maybe that’s a little harsh, but I want a partner who’s going to be a good father, and me having to plan everything is absolutely going to drive me crazy. I think I want to break up, but he’s going to ask why, and I am trying to think of a less crappy way to say this. I don’t want to make him feel awful.
TLDR: Tired of leading all the time in my relationship. How do I break up gently?