I (26F) always dated guys who have passions in life, whether that’s their hobbies, careers or travel. I find it attractive when a man has something of his own that makes him tick. After my big breakup last year, I realised how much time I’d spent supporting my ex in his passions without pursuing or even discovering mine. Since then I’ve been having a lot of fun doing evening classes, group meetups, solo travel and volunteering, and I now feel very fulfilled.
I’ve been on 5 dates with a lovely guy (27M) who doesn’t really have any passions. He likes his job, but not strongly, he enjoys watching football and he goes to the pub with his mates. When I try to engage him in conversation about future plans, he doesn’t look beyond owning a flat (a huge deal, yes, but given his financial situation, kind of inevitable and very practical).
He’s gorgeous, respectful, and is looking for a relationship, but is it possible that I want someone who wants more from life? Or if I’m focused on my own fulfillment, does it matter if my partner isn’t passionate? Could a nice stable base be good for me?
Keen to hear other people’s experiences.