Last month, I (27M) ended things with my gf(27F) of three years, who at one point I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. I don’t regret the breakup, but dammit it has been very painful letting go of her. Last weekend while I was out of town, I went on a date with an absolutely gorgeous 30 year old woman. I told her I was only in town for the weekend but she was down to get together anyway. Started off as a lunch date that turned into walking in a park that turned into sex at her place. On top of being ridiculously hot, she was kind, fun, made excellent conversation, and seemed really into me. It was legitimately the best first date of my life. We texted the next day for a bit but haven’t spoken since.
I felt like I was on cloud nine in the succeeding days, but now I am starting actually fuckin miss her, thinking about how she’s probably on a date with some guy rn, etc.. Logically, I know it was meant to be a one time thing. But I could swear we made a real connection, and I’d bet if I was in the same town as her permanently, I would take her out again.
The high of being on a date, making a connection, feeling affection from a beautiful woman – it was all worth it. Plus I realize my emotions are all over the place right now from the breakup no matter what I do. But, I am thinking maybe it was too soon to put myself out there.
So what should I do to cope moving forward? Should I double-down on being a man-hoe? Should I lock myself in chastity for a little while? Something in the middle?