Back ground- me and hubby (m38) have been together 15 years married 13.5 years, we have 2 boys one whos 21 and the other 13. Myself and both kids have autism and i have a physical disability & depression, while hubby is in the process of being diagnosed with adhd and has depression too. Hubby has been amazing during my illness and my assessment time, hes the main chef in the house and works bit it part time so he can be home to look after us.
The issues- i had a medical procedure that caused me to go into premenapause but it wasn’t caught early enough so i had 4/5 years before my doctor realised, I couldn’t orgasam in that time so our sex was decimated to the point that I was literally agreeing to it so he would leave me alone, now i can only just get off from books when I’m on my own but not during intamacy. He keeps asking me for things and touching me which really annoys me. Weve talked lots i explain as well as my asd brain can but we seem to be going round in circles. Im taking the meds to help and hopefully the new ones help more but does anyone have any advice on how to help me b4 i reach breaking point again?