Originally posted this elsewhere, but it should have gone here really. Sorry folks! 😅I just want to know if I’ve gotten this all wrong and made a dramatic exit Stage left over nothing at all?
I (30somethingF) and my boyfriend (30somethingM) have been together 2 and a bit years. We very recently moved in together too! But it’s been a terrible ride culminating in this moment. We fight over so much. Just before I moved in (literally gave up my house and was packed to move within a day or so), we had a night out and got stuck somewhere beyond our control, and he had a huge angry issue over it all. He blamed me for it happening, despite the fact that I cannot control the weather. I moved in and the day I moved in he left to go somewhere for a pre-arranged week.Though I had no idea where he was actually staying or anything. When he came back, he was just pushing me away, planned another week away and refused to let me join him; “Its where I blow off steam”. There I am, moved into his place but he treated me like everything I did was wrong. Everything I did was met with “I don’t do it like that, do it like I do it!” And I haven’t felt very welcome and our relationship has really struggled. We had this holiday booked, but every time we tried to arrange anything to do with it, it created more fighting. He said I wasn’t engaging with the planning, I wasn’t communicating so well because everything I suggest gets shot down, so my confidence to speak up has really eroded with him. We flew to somewhere nice and hot. It was beautiful, he planned a lot of the days, and I can totally get his frustration at doing the bulk of the planning. But here’s the kicker. We did something physically arduous, I’m talking I straight up had a panic attack over it, and once we got back, he snapped from Mr Supportive, to Mr Aggressive again. I said we mustn’t forget to go the shops for water and he snapped “where do you think I’m going?” I spoke up the next day and said this talking down business is bad for our relationship. He said he feels like I’m a child he’s stuck with. Today we went to a nice place and he changed the plans on me mid discussion. I said hold up, I thought we’d planned to do the day this way? Why are you on about this now? And he exploded again, calling me a stupid fucking child. Well. I got the bus back to the apartment, with the only key we have and he exploded on me again, for locking him out when I didn’t even know he was at the door. He refused to talk to me at the apartment. I’ve had enough, so I booked a hotel room for the night. He’s still not been in touch. I’m flying home tomorrow to pack up my belongings and find somewhere to stay.