I’ve been seeing a guy F (23) M (24). He always tells me I’m pretty, beautiful, etc. When I say always I mean like 20 times in a date. The problem is he’s made a few snide comments about my body. He called me an Amazon but framed it like a compliment. Then he told me I’m the tallest girl he’s ever been out with. I’m only 5’6, so I don’t get called tall super often. He also probably 5’10 so this is extra odd to me. He also says mean things about other people and their bodies. He wants me to take off my top and I feel anxiety about it. I’m worried about getting naked with him because he might make a mean comment. Also I wear push up bras. I’m naturally a D cup but it brings me to a DD. I just think it looks better like that. Now I’m worried he’ll see my boobs and say something mean about it. What should I do?
Tl;dr I’m nervous about going further with a guy because of the comments he’s made on my body/other people.
EDIT: Repost because first post was removed for no ages.
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You just sound insecure. Like, sincerely nothing more complicated than that. How is him calling you in Amazon an insult? Besides height Amazons are renowned for their beauty. There is legitimately nothing in your question that’s just that he is a bad person besides your perception.
Amazon is not an insult.
So uh, don’t date mean people. Sure he’s nice to you, because he gets something out of it, but being mean to other people is a giant ass red flag. I forget the exact quote, but there’s a bunch of idioms about how people only show their character when interacting with people “lesser” than them, you know? And I bet he’d turn it on you sooner or later. Together with how often he complements you, this gives be love bombing vibes.
As a woman if you don’t feel 100% confident you can trust your partner to be kind to you, move on. Don’t let other people in the comments tell you that comments that make you feel uncomfortable are compliments and you should get over it.
Your gut is right and there’s millions of men out there that won’t skeev you out, that you’ll want to show your boobs to. He ain’t the one.
The term Amazon is a bit fetishistic. The fact that he’s saying things about other people in front of you is just disrespectful and it’s matter of when he turns that on you. I think he’s objectifying you honestly. I wouldn’t have sex with him.